This is #2 in a series of articles compiled by Jim Acee, husband and caregiver for
Savanna Acee who was diagnosed in June 1995 with stage III ovarian cancer, had six rounds
of chemotherapy, and then a recurrence in July 1996 with metastasis (spread) to the liver
and diaphragm with seeding throughout the abdomen. Savanna was placed on hospice in
September 1996 and given only months to live. She subsequently survived with a high
quality of life for 10 years using a combination of alternative, complementary
and traditional (chemotherapy) treatments. For more information on
Savanna's treatment methodology, or to discuss your cancer-related concerns
contact Jim at email@example.com , call 208-384-1708
(mountain time zone) or write to Jim Acee, 4024 Whitehead, Boise, ID 83703, USA.
Tips" articles will appear each month in the CONVERSATIONS! Newsletter.
Previously published articles in this series are in the "10 Tips" section of http://www.ovarian-news.org or send a stamped, self
addressed envelop marked "10 Tips Series" to CONVERSATIONS! PO Box 7948,
Amarillo, TX 79114.
1) Attend a cancer healing retreat together for at least a week. Pick a
retreat held in a beautiful and quiet setting, and one which integrates both the caregiver
and the person with cancer into the program. The well-respected Commonweal organization
can recommend several retreats, in addition to its own. Call 1-888-495-6755 for more
information. Other information sources for retreats are local religious groups, social
workers and nurses in health care facilities, the American Cancer Society, wellness
centers, and cancer support groups.
2) Take walks in tranquil, natural settings. Use this time to focus on the
positive. Avoid discussing problems. Pay attention to the beauty and perfection in nature,
even in the smallest of things, and relate it mentally to the beauty and perfection
possible in your own body. If you are not mobile enough to walk outdoors, plan and plant a
backyard garden together and attract birds and squirrels with feeders. This can provide
countless hours of shared enjoyment.
3) Pray or meditate together while focused on healing. Sit quietly or lay
down and calm your thoughts or anxieties. Touch hands and invite healing energies to flow
between you. Do this quietly, or use a guided meditation tape, or play appropriate soft
4) Touch each other often with love, affection, and healing intent. Hug,
hold hands, brush hair, etc. Try to massage with the intent of invoking a peaceful and
healing experience. If you want to refine your technique, your local library should have
books or videos on healing massage. Or splurge and hire two professionals to give you both
a double massage at the same time in the same room. It's a great experience to share.
5) Experience uplifting entertainment together that inspires the heart,
soul, body and mind. If necessary, make special trips, out of town or out of state, for
inspiring entertainment. The Las Vegas show, "Mystere" by Cirque Du Soliel
(1-800-392-1999), is an example of wholesome entertainment that can inspire healing by
showing the perfection of the human body through artistic movement.
6) Create your own retreat. Rent a quiet place at the ocean, in the
mountains, or wherever you feel at peace. Use this time to share thoughts and feelings and
to be together without outside obligations.
7) Read inspiring stories, poetry or spiritual literature to one another.
Take time to discuss the inspiration points, highlights, or lessons in the reading. What
relevance does the reading have to your life and the healing process?
8) Cancer causes personal and relationship stresses that can inhibit the
healing process. Go together to relationship or psychological counseling sessions. You can
can have sessions for just the two of you, or attend a group session. As openly as you
can, share your concerns, fears, hopes, and experiences. Others may have experiences the
same thoughts and can offer insights into how they dealt with similar situations. It is
very often a relief just knowing your experiences are similar to others in the group.
9) Join a local cancer support group and attend together. Or, sign up with
a cancer support discussion group on the Internet. You can just read postings by others,
or join in, to share experiences and ask questions. A good site to read previous messages
(archives) on many aspects of fighting ovarian cancer is http://listserv.acor.org/archives/ovarian.html.
Archives for other concerns (such as fatigue, sexuality, faith, long term survivorship,
osteoporosis, etc.) are found at http://listserv.acor.org.archives.
10) Shop for and share healthy meals together. A healthy diet is easier to
abide by when the commitment is shared by others in the household. Try to make discovering
and cooking new healthy foods a fun adventure. Take cooking classes together, too. The
next "10 Tips" article appearing in the June issue of CONVERSATIONS!
Newsletter will focus on the role of nutrition in healing.
Copyright © 2000 Jim Acee and CONVERSATIONS!, (Permission
is given to make personal copies or copies for free distribution to cancer
fighters.) Available on the web at: http://www.ovarian-news.org
under "10 Tips Series for Coping by Jim Acee."
*Compiled by Jim Acee. Please send questions, comments, or contributions of your
experiences or thoughts on this topic to Jim Acee by e-mailing firstname.lastname@example.org or write to:
Boise, ID 83703.